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Poly Lily FAQ
Recently, @cjernigan asked me “Tell me about your poly relationship,” and the question was so broad I didn’t quite know how to address it. How did it happen? What is it like? How do we do it? Is it about sex? I get a lot of the same questions from people when they find out, so I put together a (probably unnecessarily) long FAQ that covers many of the things people usually want to know. I figure I can then link this if I get the same questions again, and if people have questions about things I didn’t cover, go ahead.
I used first letters for the names even though 95% of my followers know who all these people are. I used this on the off-chance that this gets reblogged or quoted or otherwise passed around, because I love these people and don’t want to violate their privacy. I know it’s kind of annoying.
Please note: I’m a pretty open person and I don’t mind answering questions about my sexuality. I welcome questions and actually feel like most questions are indicative of interest and even respect, and I rarely get offended or upset. If something is too intrusive, I just won’t answer. However, this is not a reflection of all people who identify as poly, queer, or otherwise OSGM. Many people do not appreciate being interrogated about their sexuality. When you find out that someone has a sexual identity or gender identity you don’t understand, be careful with questions, even if you’re genuinely curious. I only say this because I know that sometimes individuals in minority groups are expected to represent the whole, and I would hate for someone on tumblr to see me candidly answer “do you have threesomes,” assume that such questions are universally appropriate, and go on to ask a trans person unintentionally hurtful questions about zir genitals or a lesbian about the mechanics of her partnered sex.
